Tuesday 1 November 2016

The Lagos of my childhood


I love Lagos, and I have never denied this fact, the love between Lagos and I, is like the love the people of Sapele have for local gin (popularly known as Sapele water). The love I have for this city that never sleeps is stronger than the love my Enugu people have for Okpa, sometimes it gives me goose bumps.
Life in Lagos is theatric, the city is a theatre of absurd, and it is impossible living here and not losing your sanity at intervals for various reasons.
Early morning sleeps were constantly interrupted by call for prayers from a megaphone in a nearby mosque, or the sonorous voice of an “Agege bread seller” announcing the arrival of hot loaves.
Friday nights were wakeful nights, we were held captive by the deafening sound from a 1000 decibel speaker and the shout of fire from the Pentecostal church two blocks away from my house.
While on bus (popularly called “Molue”) one is sandwiched in between stench especially at the close of business.
The city birthed the memory of my boyhood, which transverses across all nooks and crannies in the state.
Growing up in Mushin, in the late nineties was eventful, beautiful memories etched on the sand of time, I remember the week armed robbers wrote us a letter, announcing their coming, we waited anxiously, made bonfire on the street for more than three weeks, we scared them away, lol, they never came, someone later confessed that it was a stunt pulled by some young boys in the neighborhood.
When my age grade who lived in plush neighborhoods like Ilupeju, Maryland and Anthony revered Captain America, Samurai X, Godzilla, Earthworm Jim, Timon and Pumbaa, I revered “Budossa”, I loved him dearly, he was my childhood superhero and fortunately he lived on my street, not many people had the luxury of sharing neighborhood with their superhero.
I felt and ruffled the hair on his body, every morning, before I went to school, I sneak out of the house to pay him obeisance.
His horn was his magic wand; when he was charged up, he unleashed it, sending his opponent to the ground with a force that could crush the panel of a Picanto salon car.

Ogbeni La, the handler of Budossa could place his bet on him and go to bed, he was sure Budossa was going to win any fight, he had unrivalry confidence in him; Budossa never disappointed his supporters unlike Arsenal football club, Budossa was the reigning king, master of hat trick, lord of all rams in Mushin.
Years later, my family relocated to another neighborhood and I remember when I visited and I was told Budossa passed on few years after my family relocated, I was low-spirited for weeks. It is funny how this ram formed the basis of my childhood and growing up years.



Thursday 16 June 2016

ADUKE



Come Aduke
let us walk into the forest,
away from the piercing eyes of Iya-Agba.
Let us lay under the starry sky,
let the trees watch as hearts are knit.
Let me bury the pains of your heart
in the depthless pit of my soul,
Where love is endless,
strife is brief.
Come, lay on my bossom,
listen to the rhythm of my steady heartbeat,
Tilt your head towards my stomach
hear the butterfly hum your name
Aduke.















About Oliver Onyibe
Oliver Onyibe is a |Social Engineer| and  |Lover|

Wednesday 15 June 2016

IF MY SON IS GAY



If my son were to be gay,
I would kneel down and pray,
Ask God to take the gayness away
For on this earth Gay equals pain.
I will say, “Son I know it is who you are
But in society, we all play parts
No one wants you to be gay,
They will fight you and break you
Dim your bright light.
They will discriminate and incriminate you
They will judge and barricade you from happiness
They will not let you rest for even a day
Please my son, do not be gay
There is nothing more I want
Than for you to live as you want
But if you like peace and serenity.
Please marry a wife
For anything else will bring fire and strife.
People can lead you to suicide
Their words will hurt like knives
Their knives will hurt like knives
They will tear you up in pieces
So please if anything, have a mistress
Prostitutes or multiple misses
So long as it is a female at the end of the day
Please my son, do not be gay.
If you want a life as a warrior
Join the army and fight for your country
For always a world war must end
But the war against gays seems a dead end
Society only wants you dead in the end.
The fact that you have rights won’t stop them
The fact that you are human won’t stop them
The fact you are a lovely person won’t stop them
The fact that you are a good father won’t stop them.
The fact that you have sex with men will provoke them
Disgust and frighten them,
The fact that you take and give it in the ass
Will harass their minds.
My son marry a woman, she is the only way
Please my son, do not be gay.
I cannot see you in pain or in tears
I will only be alive with you for so few years.
Human beings are wicked, foolish and dumb
They will never stop fighting till your last heartbeat,
I don’t want defeat
But I also don’t want my son deep in concrete.
Don’t marry a man even if he’s sweet
Don’t marry a man even if he connects with your spirit
Don’t marry a man even though it’s all you need
Marry a woman because that is society’s feed
Fuck a woman because that is society’s greed.
Never let them know who you are
For they won’t let you live a day as my star
Your wings they will massacre before your flight
They will steer you wrong though you feel right,
They will control you
Make you another heterosexual minion
Cast you into heterosexual oblivion.
I know you never committed a crime
I know all you want is in a man
My son, society is not ready for your demand
They are afraid, paranoid and armed
Their phobia won’t let them understand.
I wish you peace, protection and always faith
Maybe one day you can have your way
Until it is 100% safe, my son please don’t be gay.”


This post was originally published on lindaikejisblog.com
January 8, 2015 at 10:29 AM

Thursday 9 June 2016

MY SON



 When my son was born,
I knelt down and said, 
Son, I'm happy you are here,
I wish you never came.


You were better as a star in the dark night,
Looking down on frail earthlings,
You might never realize your full potentials
here on earth.


You will be told,
you can be whatsoever you want to be, 
Don't be deceived,
it's a cliché.


Society has your roles,
written in black and white, 
If you dare do otherwise,
you will be nicknamed a deviant.


I love you,
I don't want the fate of deviants to befall you.
Society scorns celibacy,
Let your virility show in the young maidens of the town,
Impregnate them in their hundreds,
that is what society wants.


If you steal in little quantity,
you will be incarcerated,
steal huge amounts,
they will be dumbfounded,
you will be rewarded with a chieftaincy title.


Don't be a teacher,
their rewards are in heaven,
that is for those that will be fortunate to make heaven.

Be a politician,
you will steal and men of God will fight your cause,
your victims will reverence and enthrone you. 


Keep them hungry and dispirited,
their love for you will wax stronger.
While you are here,
enjoy your stay.


I love you truly.




















About Oliver Onyibe
Oliver Onyibe is a |Social Engineer| and  |Lover|

Monday 9 May 2016

Magun: Myth or Science


I first came across the word Magun in the classical Yoruba movie “Thunderbolt Magun (2000)” by the prolific movie maker Tunde Kelani, a mainframe production.

The word “magun” belong to the Yoruba tribe of the South Western Nigeria, it can be loosely translated to mean “do not climb” in English Language, it is believed to be a charm that is placed on a wife suspected to be involved in extramarital affairs, literally, it refers to the restriction of sexual intercourse.

Subsequently a friend who served somewhere in South West Nigeria recounted how the Baale (the community head) came to address them the day they arrived in that community, he told them to be careful of the young girls in that town because most of them got married quite early to older men and they are attracted to younger men especially “Youth Corpers”. He warned them of the possibility of the presence of Magun on some of the maidens of the town, jokingly I shrugged my shoulder and told him the baale is afraid, he knows some “Youth Corpers” are randy and he doesn’t want you all to come desecrate their maidens.
In the course of our discussion, penis captivus came to mind, I do not doubt the existence of magun as a charm, however a more scientific/medical approach will be suitable.

Penis Captivus as the name implies is when the penis is held captive by the virginal. During sexual intercourse, blood rushes down to the penis which makes it turgid, while thrusting it into the virginal, it can get clampdown by the set of muscles inside a woman’s body that control the movements of sexual organs, between the abdomen and the pelvis, when it contracts as a result of reaching climax by the woman. Penis captivus happens in less than 90 minutes, once the woman finishes with her climax, her muscles relaxes.
After the man ejaculates, blood leaves the penis and it loses its turgidity. At that point, the penis is withdrawn freely from the vagina.

Fortunately, penis captivus is uncommon in humans. There have been some documented cases in which couples have needed medical attention, but most of the time, the situation resolves on its own.
This occurrence has nothing to do with extramarital affairs, it can occur between married or unmarried partner. It is more of a medical condition than a punitive condition for sexual promiscuity in marriage.

Sunday 20 September 2015

Love in the Wood

Come my love,
Come let us lay,
let us brood, under the starry heaven,
like penguins in a polar earth.

Come my love,
Come, let us lay,
Let me feel the suppleness of your loins
and the tenderness of your bosom.

Come my love,
Come let us lay,
Let us give the shrubs scenes and acts,
Let the bush applaud as our hearts are knit,
on the bed of palm fronds and a pillow of log.

Come my love,
Let us lay on nature sheerest mat,
Roll in the hay with my tongue buried in yours
like Adam and Eve in Eden.




























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Monday 31 August 2015

Rain in Lagos

I hear splatters of rain in Lagos,
I hear the unrhythmic splash of the tears of cherubs,
Sizzling on rooftops and
filing potholes in Iyana-Ipaja.

Rain in Lagos,
The hours are wet and cold with misty air,
The torrent sweeps the Marina walkway clean,
floods the Ebute-Meta walkway,
and invades gated houses in Lekki.

Rain in Lagos,
Commuters scamper for shades,
Bus conductors hike their bus fare,
Third Mainland Bridge is gridlocked,
Cars crawls up to their destinations,

Rain in Lagos,
The salt seller hides her bucket of salt,
and the sleepy sugar seller counts her losses,
come rain, come shine,
Lagos lives, business thrives.